Be Self Centred

We usually get into relationships because we need someone to give us company, we need someone to give us love we need, we need someone to gift us, we need someone who should listen to us, we need someone who should take care of us till we die.

Larger portion of the people don’t enjoy their relationship but stick to them due to other reasons like children, society. A study shows main reason for relationship failure as follows.
a) The partner do not listen to them
b) The partner do not do what they say
c) The partner do not talk what they want to listen
d) The partner do not change as they want.
e) The partner have conflicting interest than them

How many of you have visited your friends regularly as you were doing before marriage?
How many of you have continued your hobby after your marriage?
How many of you have done something you as an individual enjoyed doing it?
As an individual, they don’t find time for themselves to focus on their development.

My new age thought is to be very successful in relationships (be it with spouse / parents / in-laws / children) – you need to be self-centred.
If you start concentrating on your life, your actions, your words, your desire then you would not have any issues with Relationships.

Don’t focus on what your partner doing, going, talking – but focus on your actions, your improvement.
If you see very successful and happier couple, they have they own space. They do not try to change their partner. They do not try to control the other person.

Think about it, and talk to your spouse / parents / children (or whomever you see problems with relationships) and create your own space and be self-centred.

And to be much more successful in relationship, you support your partner to achieve in their life, help them setting goals in their life, help them to find new hobbies, help them to set new visions. Support them and not Control them.

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2 Responses to 'Be Self Centred'

  1. Premi - April 1st, 2009 at 2:38 pm

    I agree! but i would rather put it this way..rather than self centred..be self motivated…Try out ways that would make your self feel good. Start out with spending 15 minutes a day for yourself. There starts the new change in you! …

  2. Jeanine - April 17th, 2009 at 2:07 am

    I am a student of Abraham and believe Abraham has the perfect advice on relationships.

    We begin looking at what we like and as time goes by, most people begin focusing on what they do not like. Through Law of Attraction we get more of what we focus upon.

    The key is to look at the aspects of our partner, family and friends that we like. Ignore the aspects we do not like. This is not that difficult to do if you decide you want to (selfishly) feel good. It does not feel good to think about the aspects of your partner you do not like so look at the aspects you like; you will feel better and your relationship will be better.

    One way to do this is to write a love letter to your partner on a fairly regular basis. Keeping a book of positive aspects is another. You can brain storm on the positive aspects of anyone in your life; even someone you don’t like very much.

    No one else can make you happy. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. I want a partner who will tell me he is going to do his best to be happy as often as he is able; he will focus his thoughts and energy on this task. I want a partner who says he will look at those aspects of me he adores. I would do the same and we would have a wonderful relationship that would renew itself naturally over and over again.

    I have two teenage daughters and, believe it or not, have a great relationship with both of them (ages 17 & 18). I attribute much of our good relationship to all of us looking at the positive aspects of one another.


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