Conversation With Prem

One of the survey revealed that 90% of the respondents voted that the money is bad, and 10% said money is good.

Another survey revealed that 95% of the same respondents said that they want to be rich.
Do you see the disconnect here?

The people who stated the money was bad wanted to become rich. How can we achieve something which we presume as bad?

Our society preaches that the money is the mother of all evil, and the same society give VIP status to the rich. It is full of contradiction.

Some people say that they need money little enough to lead a comfortable life, because they fear that too much of money make them evil, and the same people jealous someone who live a luxury life.

What you think about it? Please post your comments.

I shall share my views on this after some time.

Some of us would live either in past or in future. For e.g., some would always think about the events happened in past and feel sad for whatever had happened, whatever others had said, whatever didn’t happen, etc.,

Some would always think about the events which are going to occur and worry whether it would happen this way or that way. whether it would happen or not. What if it does happen that way, how need to react. What if it doesn’t happen, and how need to act. etc.,

Please note that I dont find anything wrong or right here, but my view is by doing the above, we lose the precious moment of our life i.e., NOW. Because of either thinking about the past or the future, we would have not spend good quality present moment with your family which would be a cause for rift in your family. we would not have spend good quality time in your job, which would have caused low salary hike in your appraisal.

If you closely notice, that we call the current moment as PRESENT Moment, because it is a gift to us from god to live the life at that moment.

I would love to use the current minute / current second for my betterment i.e., either in my family harmony if i am at home or in my career development if i am at office.

For e.g., if you are driving, and if you dont live that moment as a driver and if you focus all your thoughts on whatever had happened or whatever might happen in future, you might put your life at risk.

If a cricketer dont live the moment if he is batting, then he might get dismissed and his team would have got affected because of his problem.

For all, who are asking me - whether planning for future is a problem or whether learning lessons from past is wrong, my response would be you can very well proceed with your future / past thinking provided you are happy in current moment. If not, I dont find a reason you doing it.

For those, who are willing to live the moment, but wouldn’t avoid thinking about the past or thinking about the future all the time - all you need to do is live consciously and a bit of mind manipulation would help you. Contact me for futher customized details for you.

As always - please fell free to post your comments in my blog.

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Most of us were told by our society that we should loves others, we should be nice to others, we should forgive others, etc.,

I am not denying the above, but all that are possible only when you love yourself first.

Unfortunately, I don’t find that as a case. Most of us are not having very high opinion about ourselves.

We often think

(a) We are burden to the people we love
(b) We are burden to this world
(c) We are losers
(d) We are worthless
(e) We are not lucky to enjoy all the good things in life
(f) No one cares about us
(g) No one loves us
(h) We are living for our children only
(i) We are living for our parents only
(j) We are not having perfect physic (some would feel they are obese / some would feel they are lean and develop inferior complex)

Actually the above list is endless.

By thinking that above, we are not doing good to us.

No one can love others when they don’t love themselves first.

No one can think positively when they don’t think positive about them first.

My new age thought is

(a) Think you are the best creature in this world
(b) Feel good about you
(c) Feel that you are close to god
(d) Think that you deserve the best in this world.
(e) Think that you always get the best in this world.
(f) Feel you are blessed

Automatically you would have higher thoughts about you, and you feel happy. And no happy person would do harm to others, and it would make others love you automatically.

Please comment on this post.

Have you heard about any miracles?

And much more….

Be it any religion – there are avatars who perform Miracles.

We have heard thru Bible stories that Jesus Christ had saved many from acute illness.
We have heard thru our Islam friends that Allah had done many miracles
We have heard about miracles by Sai Baba, Sathya Sai, Sri Amma Bhagavan, Lord Sri Krishna, Lord Sri Ram, Lord Shiva and many more hindu Gods..

Coming to the point, have you ever thought why you were not chosen by God to perform that miracle.

Are you sinned or Are our God biased

Is there any special criterion for our God to pick some and leave rest?

Does God play Bingo and choose your number?

Should you need to leave all your worldly desires to get miracles from god?

Does your bad karma is more than our good karma for not getting miracles from god?

Are you not lovable? Are you not obedient to God? Does your love to God is not enough?

Should you cry and beg God for the miracle?

Should you shout at God to get his attention?

What is that you are missing?

Have you ever thought about it?

Think and post your comments, I shall update this post with my views next time.

Please try to read below

“I wuold liek to tell yuo taht oru mind raed tihs lnie wiht otu ayn probelm becaues ew alreday maed up our mnid”

If you have no difficulty in reading the above line, then you are common and it is very natural for us to read this as our mind is capable of linking it with the pattern we already know.

If you have difficulty in reading the above line, then you are very good – either your mind is fresh or you deny accepting the pattern we already know, and we claim the line as non-readable or with typo errors

The point I would like share with you is all of us, have some judgements about the other person based on our previous experiences. If the previous experiences are good, then we mark the other person as good person, if the previous experiences are bad, then we mark the other person as bad person.

Next time, when we meet that person or when we happen to discuss about that person, our judgement about that person comes to our conscious mind, and accordingly we react.

This is the nature of our mind. There is nothing wrong with that, and you might be absolutely correct with your judgement.

But, sometimes or many times we end up taking a wrong judgement call, and we might not try to understand that person or we might not ready for a new experience from that person.

Interestingly a study shows, that many times we take some other person’s judgement as our judgement when we encounter new people. Our mind can be easily manipulated by other people’s input.

My new age thought would be

(a) Always know that there is a possibility that what we already know as right could end up as wrong, and open your heart and accept people as they are. This would end the conflict within families/society/ this universe.

As always, your comments are welcome.

Many people I met have told me that they don’t enjoy what they do for work and at the same time they stick to the same profession due to other commitments.

It really posts lot of questions in my mind.

Why can’t we do what we love and still make a comfortable living?

Would like to hear from you?

Do you do what you love and still make a living? Or you don’t?

If not, why you couldn’t?

We usually get into relationships because we need someone to give us company, we need someone to give us love we need, we need someone to gift us, we need someone who should listen to us, we need someone who should take care of us till we die.

Larger portion of the people don’t enjoy their relationship but stick to them due to other reasons like children, society. A study shows main reason for relationship failure as follows.
a) The partner do not listen to them
b) The partner do not do what they say
c) The partner do not talk what they want to listen
d) The partner do not change as they want.
e) The partner have conflicting interest than them

How many of you have visited your friends regularly as you were doing before marriage?
How many of you have continued your hobby after your marriage?
How many of you have done something you as an individual enjoyed doing it?
As an individual, they don’t find time for themselves to focus on their development.

My new age thought is to be very successful in relationships (be it with spouse / parents / in-laws / children) – you need to be self-centred.
If you start concentrating on your life, your actions, your words, your desire then you would not have any issues with Relationships.

Don’t focus on what your partner doing, going, talking – but focus on your actions, your improvement.
If you see very successful and happier couple, they have they own space. They do not try to change their partner. They do not try to control the other person.

Think about it, and talk to your spouse / parents / children (or whomever you see problems with relationships) and create your own space and be self-centred.

And to be much more successful in relationship, you support your partner to achieve in their life, help them setting goals in their life, help them to find new hobbies, help them to set new visions. Support them and not Control them.

please share your views

Many of us usually tell that we don’t get growth or importance in our company. Many of us feel that those who do buttering their managers would get promotions, good salary hike, etc.,.
Many of us feel why only certain people are very close to Managers and why we are not included in some of the decision making process in the official activities.

Many of us also feels that our managers are biased based on factors like caste / religions / gender based and they only get all the credits / promotions / hike / etc.,

Though sometimes it is true, but most of the times we fail to see the success/talent of those people who shares a good official relationship with your managers.

I would like to share my new age thought on this subject.

One point everyone should remember that Company pay salary for those who do their work, and those who go extra mile gains importance.

In order words, Involvement brings Importance.

If you do what you are asked to do, then you are one of the team member. If you do what others haven’t thought about, then you stand out of the crowd and become visible to your manager.

I always correlate peoples as websites, and google search engine as managers. If google searches a particular term, then the most famous website shows up first for those terms searched. How Google arrives it? One of the main logic is page rank and number of other websites linking the main website.
As many website refers the main website for the content, then the main website comes a rank 1 and shows up first in the google search.

Similarly if you are strong enough in particular area and if everyone refers you in that particular area, then you are making yourself visible to your manager.

Also if you have any other special details up to date, then your manager would refer you for that information. For e.g., If you know, all the hotels who offer discount lunch – then your manager would reach out to you to organize a business lunch. If you know, all the international air timings from your area airport, then your manager would reach out to you to organize clients travel plans.

If you involve in your other teams activities, give consultation, help them to achieve their goals, automatically the news would reach your manager and you get noticed for your involvement.
I would suggest, let us stop complaining or feeling jealous about people who are currently critical in your company, and you study that person’s success and try to get inspiration from him.

Hi Again,

I thought that I should write this amidst the tough economic conditions.

The world is undergoing the Great Recession and many across countries lose their jobs, lose their money, lose their happiness, families, some even lives.

As many media reports have been published about this great recession, the source of the recession, the impact it made across globe, I don’t want to discuss the whole story again in detail. But in short it flowed as follows

US Real Estate Market Crash -> Subprime Loan Crisis -> Banks/Financial institutions bankrupt -> No cash liquidity -> Companies didn’t get money from bank to run business -> People lose jobs -> People restrict spending -> Causes low demand -> No jobs for factory -> People lose jobs -> People dont pay loans -> Home repossessions -> people suffer

etc., etc.,

One thing the media and the governments are doing is, it spreads fear among the people. Because of reading daily news reports about recession, fear of losing job / fear of salary cuts / fear of visa problems gets into our mind, and it in turn makes us feel sick / restricted.

What we persists it would resists.

Hence, my new age thought is live life as usual, if I ask you that only when the governments/media are claiming that there is recession, we acknowledge that. If there were no announcements of recessions, then wouldn’t we have lead a normal life?

Make spending as usual - I am not suggesting you spend recklessly.

All I can tell you - dont let fear enter your mind, think positive and live as if there is nothing called recession.

Please spread this message so that we can come out of this gloom. We can help ourself.

As usual, your valuable comments are welcome.

Friends,

I would like to share with you how important is vision in one’s life. Whenever I meet someone new, I shall make to the point that I ask them their vision in life. For most of them, they dont expect such question and they are not prepared for the answer. It shows that they themselves have not thought about their vision in life. Few of them, answer that, they don’t plan anything in their life, instead they take things as they come on their way. I feel that they take pride in telling such answers. Nothing wrong with their views, but I differ in their opinion.

Take an instance that you are going for a journey, how well you plan? don’t you book your tickets, don’t you book your hotels, don’t you know what is your destination?. But for a longer journey i.e., life -  most of us are not prepared. No vision to achieve something in life.

One day US President JK Kennedy during his morning walk in white house met few young kids from a local school, when he said a boy - what you would want to become in life (i.e., vision in life), without hesitation, that boy said that “I want to be what you are currently”, and that boy is ex-US president Bill Clinton. That is the secret of the vision, it would take you to where you want, if you really want to.

Having said that I would like to share my vision too.

a) would like to be a world known motivational trainer and make a difference to millions of people in the world

b) would like to be a WEB entrepreneur - and have multiple streams of business / income and create lot of job opportunity

c) would like to create educational trust in my father’s name and help poor students in education.

Having said mine, would like to hear from you what is your vision in life?

If you need any assistance/mentoring in identifying your vision of your life, please let me know.